Rubini Wellness — Healing

Healing Our Shadows: Dream Work Part 1

Posted by Joanna Rubini on

I've said this before but it bears repeating. The only way out of our self created despair, our self created hell, is through love of ourselves. I cannot speak from experience of living through torture inflicted by others, but I have lived through several bouts of self torture. And most of us in Western culture chronically live in a low grade of self inflicted torture. What we didn't realize was that we were 1) taught to constantly berate ourselves in the guise of improvement, which has 2) kept us hurt, fighting, efforting, suffering and 3) that this subliminally installed mechanism has allowed...

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How to Heal: Underlying Current of Emotion: ROOT CHAKRA

Posted by Joanna Rubini on

I was faced with responding to a negative review on Yelp the other day, a negative review of my family's business Rubini Jewelers. A business that I love to be in both because of the innate creativity involved, and because I love our customers. They are sometimes gentle, sometimes anxious, sometimes loving, sometimes open, enthusiastic, worried, psyched, creative...everything human and endearing. So when we received a poor review, I felt immediately off balance. My livelihood felt threatened, my family felt attacked, I wanted to defend the issues the review brought up with ferocity. But, I created exactly what the reviewer offered:...

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Fear of Abandonment

Posted by Joanna Rubini on

Is it really possible that adult humans are walking around with this childlike fear? After all, many adults have their own jobs, their own homes, their own spouses, partners, children, cars, ideas. This fear cannot possibly exist in adults. And yet, it does. I want to say that it is clear as day, but most likely it's muddled. We think our fear of abandonment has to do with our current situation. Or even, the relationship we had before our current one. Or even, our very first boy or girl friend. But if all of our patterns of behavior are learned...

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What Healing Ourselves Means

Posted by Joanna Rubini on

How to Heal: What does that even mean? Healing from emotional pain, from physical pain, from carrying excess body weight, from denying yourself proper nutrition, from over reacting to little things, from trauma.  Healing can happen once we allow ourselves complete ownership of our feelings.  They can be embarrassing feelings or shameful feelings or dirty secret feelings that you think should never see the light of day. Except all those feelings stay within us if we don't let them out.START:  If you want to heal, intend to feel better.  Intend to see yourself and your life differently. Next, speak or write...

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Left Ankle Pain

Posted by Joanna Rubini on

Sheltering in Place. Day number?? We are all either surrounded by sameness that might be feeling increasingly mundane or in changing our routines, we might be experiencing shock or anxiousness because we are all so used to Doing and Doing and Doing and being Distracted with regularity. I'm sitting here writing, but I'm looking for a little something to distract me. Food? Drink? Exercise?  We're supposed to be social distancing, but an additional wrinkle in my routine is a lame ankle. It is healing, thank god!! But my descent into the ankle pain and arrival at my lowest point were not accepted gracefully....

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