How to Heal: What does that even mean? Healing from emotional pain, from physical pain, from carrying excess body weight, from denying yourself proper nutrition, from over reacting to little things, from trauma. Healing can happen once we allow ourselves complete ownership of our feelings. They can be embarrassing feelings or shameful feelings or dirty secret feelings that you think should never see the light of day. Except all those feelings stay within us if we don't let them out.START: If you want to heal, intend to feel better. Intend to see yourself and your life differently. Next, speak or write (or sing) the feeling or sensation or event you are struggling with or hiding. Choose a safe way to release it. You want to feel the sensations viscerally, bodily, deeply, powerfully, so they flow through you. Once expressed and you are free of them, you can explore their root in you with more openness and curiosity. This will allow you to understand why things happened as they did, and you can then consciously enter into the trauma from the past and re-experience it in a more powerful way. I say powerful here because I'm referring to events where we felt we were victims. But there are also certainly events where we felt like we behaved badly and that misstep haunts us. Those too are easily re-written, where you did what was right in your heart instead of whatever behavior haunts you. If feeling all feelings can me made easy by simply narrating their sensation aloud (or on paper) then nothing lingers in us. Healing is then easy because we are not afraid of the past, its all just ideas and feelings that we can feel and then rewrite as we wish. Do it!
Put Another Way:Here are the rules: There are no rules! We all have our own rules, that's why some people walk into a store and experience impatience and others walk in, even at the same exact time along side the impatience experience person, and only observe a sense of calm and curiosity. Why? We see what we feel. So when I have a so called shitty interaction, I understand that is within me.
What I learned this year: 1) Miracles happen as often as you wish. Ask for one, it will absolutely appear if you accept that it has. You open not necessarily your eyes so much as your awareness to what a miracle is. They come in different forms. Sometimes they are shaped like a mother, sometimes they are a warm glow within. Sometimes they are a message that we are loved
2) Self pity serves the purpose to assist us in recreating our perceived limitations. My self pity helped me sustain the effects of a traumatic accident from over 20 years ago, effects to which I subconsciously assigned benefits. But upon finally noticing the powerful role my pity has played in all parts of my life, I can gently redirect my thoughts and feelings in a more pro active way, thereby freeing my self, my body, my life, to heal and expand.
3) We are all divine energy separated into individuals to have a human experience. We all make mistakes. We all are better at some things than other things. My perfectionistic human self either wants to win everything, or quit before I fail, because I know that if I fail I usually do the equivalent of self flagellation. That totally sucks...I wonder why some days I feel sad. But oh wait: I spent the morning in self criticism. So I've learned to embrace that I'm a human student constantly learning, I just want to be the best at being open and learning that I possibly can be. And if I fail or withdraw or react, then I strive to be the most patient loving parent to myself possible, so I can identify my self pity and self limiting thoughts and love me a little more so I feel strong enough to get up and try again.
4) We all just want to be loved.
5) everyone has their own rules and truths that work for them. Best not to judge anyone else's way, their way might be just perfect for them.