Rubini Wellness — Loss

HOW To HEAL: What does that even mean? Healing from emotional pain, from physical pain, from carrying excess body weight, from denying yourself proper nutrition, from over reacting to little things, from trauma.  Healing can happen once we allow ourselves complete ownership of our feelings.  They can be embarrassing feelings or shameful feelings or dirty secret feelings that you think should never see the light of day. Except all those feelings stay within us if we don't let them out.START:  If you want to heal, intend to feel better.  Intend to see yourself and your life differently. Next, speak or write...

A note on grief. It’s a feeling. You cry. Let it out. Then explore why exactly you are experiencing grief. In my case, my mom has sustained a terrible car accident. Her health wasn’t the greatest to begin with so smashing herself into another car is a blow that feels nearly insurmountable. Her three children (including me) spent the week of thanksgiving in vigil, visiting the hospital, holding her hand, trying to get a response from her. My greatest grief, when I explore my sadness, is that I ever said an unkind word to her. I can’t believe I ever...

Loss of pet: My descent into poor health started awakening me to our innate ability to restore ourselves to perfect health and wellness, but it was the loss of our 2 dogs that sent me over the cliff edge into such despair that only prayer and faith bolstered me. I'm not by practice a 'religious' person, per se, but I am spiritual.  What that means is, I don't want to believe I'll go to hell or that I will be judged by a cruel god as a sinful bad human. I want to believe we are all equal and that...